ALL I SEE IS GROWTH 

The rains finally made its way and the thirsty dry grounds gulped all the water and all the precious seeds under the ground that had been planted with love, sweat, pains and aches finally budded. Oh what joy when I came around and saw the luscious green sprouts of maize and vegetables, I danced and laughed and cried because all I could see was growth and I was thankful that all the toil was gradually paying off. I was elated I took lots and lots of pictures but guess what? Some mischief I didn’t foresee was going to spring up.

I watched my farm closely in the following weeks and then noticed all my hard work was being tampered with, birds or was it squirrels wasn’t sure what it was at the time, started uprooting my maize plant from the ground. Same thing was happening in my neighbour’s farm so we devised a method to discourage this. We made…..and found old tapes, those old radio cassette; rolled out the tapes and tied it all over the farm when there is wind, it wobbles and sends a signal that people were on the farm and the sun made the tapes reflect silvery lights so discouraged the birds from coming down to feed.

The essence of these, protect your growth at all cost, no matter what may spring up to try to pull you down hold on to the little progress you’ve made. Don’t let the naySayers remind you that this thing is not going to work out instead be secretive about your progress not everyone needs to know step by step how you progressing with your ideas. Some people only need to see the final result, not everyone must be involved in your journey through all the pitfalls and victories, let your success call their attention.Ciao

 

 

 

 

What’s Your Take

I am an advocate of female independence but not to the extent of blatant disregard or disrespect to the male folk. I believe in women doing stuff for themselves and not waiting on the male folk to do stuff for them. I can guess you’ve probably heard women say that men should take care of women and this care, involves buying them expensive gifts, taking them to fancy dinners and practically paying for all their bills.

I’m not here to say that men shouldn’t pamper the women they love neither am I going to tell the female folk to get a life and start paying their bills instead of waiting for the men in their lives; all am going to do is paint a few scenarios and plead your indulgence to tell me your take on this issue.

We were talking sometime ago and we delved into relationship issues and what individuals go through in the name of being in a relationship. Someone among us made a statement thus; ” I cannot spend a dine on a man who expects me to pick up the bill after him, cook his meals, do his laundry and also expect me to do all the calling and ultimately sleep with me” she finally concluded by saying “once beaten, twice shy”

Scenario 1: James and Jane are  dating, they are seemingly in love and He treats her like a queen, calls her as often as he can, pays for dinner, picks her calls promptly, remembers her birthdays and surprises her with little gifts from time to time and never makes excuses on how busy or tight his schedules are and ensures that her needs are top priority. She doesn’t worry her pretty little head about how to pay her bills because she’s found  a reliable ATM(Automated Teller Machine) in James. she wonders why girls complain men don’t spend on women.

Scenario 2: Peter and Prisca have a different tale, Prisca makes excuses for Peter on the grounds that his busy schedule doesn’t permit him to call her, or take her to dinner or when he takes her to dinner he comes up with excuses on how his ATM card is temporarily out of service and he hates to carry cash or how he assumed the restaurant accepts debit cards;  hence, the reason he has to borrow some money from her to pay for dinner with the intent of paying but he never does, or his reason to cash in on mobile network free night call promo keeping her awake at night discussing irrelevant issues or his incessant habit of forgetting important dates and not being able to pick her calls during the day time because his choked up at work and barely has time for lunch.

scenario 3: Shank and Sheila have a different arrangement, they both share everything, they take turns to give each other a treat, not waiting on the other to do something. They love themselves and her both ready to come to a compromise, Sheila pays for dinner when Shank is broke, Shank tries as much as he can to meet sheila’s needs and she in turn meets him half way. They communicate freely without work schedules coming in between and understands when either one of them has to be away. they don’t forget important dates and ensure each one is memorable.

From all scenarios painted, what should be the role of both parties in a relationship, should it be the exclusive preserve of just a partner or should it be a partnership between two people who love themselves and are willing to make the sacrifice. Bear in mind the African perception that men should take care for their women, What’s your Take? ciao

St Valentine’s Day

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I love February 14th…Hmmm! it comes with lots and lots of surprises, comical scenes etc. I have often wondered why we had to single out a particular day in the year to say I love you or to give gifts to those we love, because I for one feel love should be expressed every passing day through kind words, gestures, thoughts,gifts when there’s occasion for it or just simply because its the only way you can make that person feel special.

Over time i developed an answer for my question Why should a day be singled out for expressing love? I just figured that apart from the official records on how St Valentine’s day is been celebrated its because a lot of people have forgotten how to show love to their fellow homo sapiens, so its a reminder to us all to say the words I love you, reach out to others with kind words, gifts, a helping hand etc. Do something to show you care.

We did something at my office, we reached out to those in the orphanage, it was little but well received. We need to drop the notion that Valentine is a day for lovers, we should reach out everyone around us, someone needs a kind word, a pat on the back, an inexpensive gift, a helping hand etc. Endeavor to do one of these as often as you can. Don’t wait for Valentine Day.

I was amazed at the shops I visited to pick up something for my Husband and the bulk of shoppers were teenagers picking perfumes,cards,frames,chocolates etc. a lot of them have picked up the notion that you exchange gifts with the opposite sex on Valentine Day. Please help spread the word and teach them to be kind to others everyday. As we all celebrate all the wonderful people around us, I wish you all find love always and forever. HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY CIAO

So much has happened

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Hi world,

It has really been a helluva task for me keeping up with the so many distractions my life has been made up of lately, I wish to express my sincere apology for been away for this long and not keeping up with you my fellow bloggers and readers inclusive; Its been one drama filled life I can assure you.

over the past month my life has been filled with lots and lots of changes and I look forward to sharing some on my blog.I will also like to say that i would have to avoid posting post with political undertones in the coming year and also making public comments on political issues, due to my present employment which doesn’t permit me to partake actively of political activities, nevertheless I promise you more interesting subjects in 2013.

Most importantly, I would love to bring to your notice my new marital status and that means a new page in my life has been opened. I am now married to the man of my dreams, the one my heart beats  for alone, the one who has been pushing that i get back on track my blog life. marriage is a whole new experience for me and I’m looking forward to sharing a part of that life and also look forward to been a mother. I’m still trying to fit into my new role as wife, wouldn’t say its easy but its been fun for me discovering more alluring aspects of the man I married.

The reality of love has struck,It does exist and we can still find it, there are people out there who still possess the ability to love truly and sincerely, so don’t give up on love, Its still the greatest gift of all. In the spirit and season of yuletide  I wish you a very Merry Xmas in 2012 and a prosperous year in 2013. May we all find joy and happiness always. Ciao!