HAPPY NEW YEAR 2017

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Okay! It’s getting stale already I suppose, because the year is slowly but gradually ticking away. What are your plans, goals and aspiration for this year?  before you tell me It took me almost nine days to write a happy new year post, don’t forget that it is never too late to begin the year with dreams, goals and plans for a better year. At least I got my a…s up and I’m writing something. Don’t judge. Lol. But more seriously, I always look forward to the New Year because it makes us aware of our past mistakes and helps us refocus our energies into making better decisions and recreating healthier memories. As we begin to make plans, write goals, about the changes we expect to happen in our lives this year we need to carry a mindset of they are achievable.

However, why it is important and great to do all these at the beginning of a new year, this year 2017, we need to be Deliberate about our dreams, plans, goals, and strategies for the coming year. We need to be willing to work and walk the talk, we need to be ready to overcome the challenges, or else all our planning will become a mere wish before our eyes. I haven’t been deliberate about a lot of things in my life, but I have made my decisions to be more deliberate this year. You too should make that decision, yes! You. Lol.

This year, expect a lot of random post; after all this blog is about self-discovery. I will put a reminder on all my devices about all I need to get done, don’t forget to set deadlines for your goals this year, be realistic with them, be patient with yourself, most importantly, this year love , live and let live( what’s that? Well help me out. Lol) like the coaches on a Facebook community I belong to will say be #phenomenal #toolatetobenobody. CIAO

Love is blind

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Ever heard of the phrase “love is blind”? I bet you have. In recent times, people’s opinion of the said phrase has changed. When you mention that phrase in a conversation that discusses the affection between couples, one in every ten person will give you a quick retort; love maybe blind for some people, but for them, love wears prescription glasses. Lol. Should I be of the opinion that those who wear prescription glasses see better than those who do not? ( wondering).

Why is love bIind? I want to believe it’s because one person is so smitten by the other person in a relationship and often don’t realise when they are been used by that person. Have seen where someone who is definitely in a selfish relationship where they do all the caring and loving and yet do not see the lapses of their partner or are quick to defend when others point out unacceptable behaviors of their partners. In scenarios like this, people have been known to excuse this smitten partner by just say the phrase “love is blind”.

Is love really blind? And if it is, does it make one sided affection in a relationship acceptable? I want to believe love is not blind. We choose to love irrespective of whether it is reciprocated. It doesn’t excuse bad behaviour. We shouldn’t be carried away by our affection. If a love relationship is one sidded, then you have the right to walk away especially an unhealthy situation where all you get is shredding of of ur self esteem and worth. Don’t be fooled that love is blind, you can clearly outline what you want in your relationship don’t excuse unhealthy relationship with the phrase “love is blind”.

I know love could mean a lot of different things to everyone depending on their expectations in a relationship but true love should be sewn from mutual respect,care,affection and genuine concern for one another. Where love is shown it should be healthyliy reciprocated. In as much as we have our failings as humans, we should see love as a tool to shape,nurture,care,mould,motivate and inspire others. It is not also restrictive to our partners, Valentine’s day, family and friends alone but as many people as her opportune to cross our path. A little smile, a kitten extension of the arm of friendship, a little concern n care is all that matters.

It’s February, the month of LOVE, spread the good cheer,feed someone,cloth someone,give a hug, share words of encouragement , tend the sick, vist the orphans, extend the arm of help to the elderly, help your spouse with the house chores, go for a romantic date, be happy making others happy. cultivate the habit of sharing. Don’t wait for Valentine. Let everyday be a love day. Ciao

SMOKED FISH PUMPKIN SAUCE

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Hello,
I have been so out of touch lately and everyone has been clamouring for a new food post. so will be dropping more yummy meals for us to try.
Ingredients

Freshly rinsed Pumpkin leaf chopped
Smoked Atlantic mackerel fish popularly known as Titus fish in Nigeria (shredded beef or chicken optional)
Dried shrimps/ prawns
3 tomatoes chopped
3 red peppers chopped
Onion sliced in rings

Preparation: place sauce pan on fire, add cooking oil of choice(palm oil), add onion rings, add curry powder(if using vegetable oil), add tomatoes and red peppers and stir till water dries up, add smoked fish and shrimps, add seasoning(knorr cube), stir for a few minutes, add pumpkin leaf taste for salt, add a little and let simmer for 2 minutes and set sauce pan down.
Serving: serve with Rice or boiled yam.

Hope you get it right. would love to hear your feedback how it turned out.CIAO.

I LOVE FOOD

 

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hmm! who here doesn’t love food? lol guess not as much as I do. I enjoy cooking as much as i love eating them. I have a friend and every time I visit her blog, i feel like eating up the site. I don’t eat everything I see, but I love to sample new foods and then try them out myself. sometimes when you follow food blogs, their recipes, sometimes consist of  ingredients that you sometimes find difficult to get, reason been that over here in Nigeria, we enjoy eating more of our traditional African food.

so finding the right supermarket to cater for your ingredient list might be difficult. I have heard people say we don’t have enough dishes to choose from, what else do we have? apart from yam, rice, beans, garri(cassava) or plantain. But I disagree. we have a lot of soups, veggies and variety of dishes to choose from. I always love to say “Food is Art”. Even if we have four types of dishes, there are many ways you can spice things up to make it different all the time.

I would be sharing with you very soon, some of our local foods prepared with ingredients that are easily accessible and affordable. I will also be introducing, the various ways you can eat your popular staple food rice and a host other food. I invite you to join me on this yummy journey.Ciao

NO CARE

Imagine a world where no one had to worry about anything, you wake up, take a bath, eat meals throughout the day, sit in front of the television all day,probably nap in between without going to work, not thinking about paying bills,what to wear, or how to make sure your bank account doesn’t run out of cash. hmm! impossible right?

When I watch my son, I wonder why adult life is so complicated. The little fire-ball as I like to call him sure knows how to keep busy. In fact watching him meet his milestones was simply amazing. The day he took his first step was definitely the best day of his toddler life. All he thinks about is walking all over the house until exhaustion drives him to sleep. He doesn’t have to worry about anything, all he’s accustomed to, is mummy changing diaper, feeding him at intervals even when he hasn’t cried out for food, worry if that cough is the flu or not, waking up at night to check on him and make sure he’s very comfy.

In as much as we cannot  be served like children, we definitely can learn one or two from the lifestyle of a child. We shouldn’t be  irresponsible adults idling away because we want to live the life of a child but we can adopt the “No worries” attitude of a child. we definitely can bring a balance into our lives by not worrying about everything. like they always say, worrying doesn’t get anything done. it only aggravates our health and can lead to life threatening diseases.

If you find yourself worrying, then you need to off load those things. Try fixing the problem, if you worried about your finances try to budget more, or if it’s about your career try updating yourself,make sure you are still relevant to be well positioned when a better opportunity presents itself. But above all these, my greatest cure pill for worry is PRAYERS. I can’t tell you enough how it has helped lift heavy burdens off my heart.

when everything becomes so overwhelming, and have exhausted all therapy to get them fixed, i bow my head in prayer, and i feel an instant peace within. i feel refreshed to tackle everything. I have a fresher perspective and I become ecstatic like my DS (Dearest Son) who is always eager to discover new things around him, full of energy, having no care and doesn’t mind moving items one hundredth times even after have told him not to.

 

Keeping Up

Wow! its been a helluva task keeping up with blog post. I never imagined that child care could be so demanding. Even when I have everything lined up, DS (Dearest Son) finds a way to help me mix everything up. I can’t be typing away on my laptop without him coming to test some of the keys for himself. things I have never imagined my laptop could do are what he miraculously manipulates on it.

Imagine my laptop having all its display upside down, some time he helps me partition my screen into four, don’t know how he manages it, but he sure loves to play with gadgets like his mama. I am so sorry for the drought of new post on my blog. I am working on new posts and hope to share post from blogs I enjoy. Hope you enjoy new content I would be bringing you. CIAO

What’s Your Take

I am an advocate of female independence but not to the extent of blatant disregard or disrespect to the male folk. I believe in women doing stuff for themselves and not waiting on the male folk to do stuff for them. I can guess you’ve probably heard women say that men should take care of women and this care, involves buying them expensive gifts, taking them to fancy dinners and practically paying for all their bills.

I’m not here to say that men shouldn’t pamper the women they love neither am I going to tell the female folk to get a life and start paying their bills instead of waiting for the men in their lives; all am going to do is paint a few scenarios and plead your indulgence to tell me your take on this issue.

We were talking sometime ago and we delved into relationship issues and what individuals go through in the name of being in a relationship. Someone among us made a statement thus; ” I cannot spend a dine on a man who expects me to pick up the bill after him, cook his meals, do his laundry and also expect me to do all the calling and ultimately sleep with me” she finally concluded by saying “once beaten, twice shy”

Scenario 1: James and Jane are  dating, they are seemingly in love and He treats her like a queen, calls her as often as he can, pays for dinner, picks her calls promptly, remembers her birthdays and surprises her with little gifts from time to time and never makes excuses on how busy or tight his schedules are and ensures that her needs are top priority. She doesn’t worry her pretty little head about how to pay her bills because she’s found  a reliable ATM(Automated Teller Machine) in James. she wonders why girls complain men don’t spend on women.

Scenario 2: Peter and Prisca have a different tale, Prisca makes excuses for Peter on the grounds that his busy schedule doesn’t permit him to call her, or take her to dinner or when he takes her to dinner he comes up with excuses on how his ATM card is temporarily out of service and he hates to carry cash or how he assumed the restaurant accepts debit cards;  hence, the reason he has to borrow some money from her to pay for dinner with the intent of paying but he never does, or his reason to cash in on mobile network free night call promo keeping her awake at night discussing irrelevant issues or his incessant habit of forgetting important dates and not being able to pick her calls during the day time because his choked up at work and barely has time for lunch.

scenario 3: Shank and Sheila have a different arrangement, they both share everything, they take turns to give each other a treat, not waiting on the other to do something. They love themselves and her both ready to come to a compromise, Sheila pays for dinner when Shank is broke, Shank tries as much as he can to meet sheila’s needs and she in turn meets him half way. They communicate freely without work schedules coming in between and understands when either one of them has to be away. they don’t forget important dates and ensure each one is memorable.

From all scenarios painted, what should be the role of both parties in a relationship, should it be the exclusive preserve of just a partner or should it be a partnership between two people who love themselves and are willing to make the sacrifice. Bear in mind the African perception that men should take care for their women, What’s your Take? ciao